Sunday, 23 October 2011

Abusive Relationship


What is Relationship Abuse?

Relationship Abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. An abusive relationship means more than being hit by the person who claims to love or care about you. Abuse can be Emotional, Financial (Financial Abuse), Sexual or Physical & can include Threats, Isolation, & Intimidation. Abuse tends to escalate over time. When someone uses abuse and violence against a partner, it is always part of a larger pattern to try and control her/him

Love Involves Respect & Trust
What is Love & Trust?

When Jackson and Anne began dating, her friends were jealous because Jackson was smart, sensitive, funny, athletic, and good-looking. Even her family loved him.


In the beginning of their relationship, first couple of months, Anne seemed happy. She started to avoid her friends and family, though, because she was spending more time with Jackson and less time with everyone else. That looked easier than dealing with Jackson's endless questions. He concerned about what she was doing at every moment of the day.


Anne's friends became worried when her behavior started to change. Because she lost interest in the things she erstwhile enjoyed most, like swimming, going to parties, fun with friends and going to the mall etc. She became secretive and moody. Her friends don’t remember when she was last time laughing.  When her friends asked if she was having trouble with Jackson, she told them nothing was wrong. Everything was fine.
In every Healthy relationship, it involves respect, trust, and consideration for the other person. Unfortunate, some relationships can turn bad. In fact, 1 in 11 high school students report being physically hurt by a date.

Every abusive relationship gives some signal before it start to worse. People in these relationships sometimes get wrong judgments of their relationship behavior. They take abusive behavior as intense feelings of caring or concern. But its not hard to get some signs of abusive relationship before it start. It can even seem flattering. Think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is very jealous: Maybe it seems like your friend's partner really cares. But actually, excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all.

What is love? Love involves respect and trust; it doesn't mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship. Because if you always feel in secure about your relationship how cans you trust your partner. And  If you feel nervous or insecure about your relationship, it's important to talk with your boyfriend or girlfriend, not try to control their behavior.



Domestic Violence & Domestic Abuse: 
What is Domestic Violence & Domestic Abouse?
Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), has been broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, or cohabitation. Domestic violence, so defined, has many forms, including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Alcohol consumption and mental illness can be co-morbid with abuse and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.


Physical Abuse: 
What is Physical Abuse?
Physical abuse is abuse involving contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, injury, or other physical suffering or bodily harm.

Psychological abuse also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse: 
What is Psychological & Emotional Abuse?
Form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Such abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, child abuse and in the workplace.

Sexual abuse also referred to as molestation:
What is Sexual Abuse?
The forcing of undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another. When that force is immediate, of short duration, or infrequent, it is called sexual assault. The offender is referred to as a sexual abuser or (often pejoratively) molester. The term also covers any behavior by any adult towards a child to stimulate either the adult or child sexually. When the victim is younger than the age of consent, it is referred to as child sexual abuse.

Verbal Abuse: 
What is Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse (also known as reviling or bullying) is best described as an ongoing emotional environment organized by the abuser for the purposes of control. The underlying factor in the dynamic of verbal abuse is the abuser’s low regard for him or herself.[citation needed] As a result, the abuser attempts to place their victim in a position to believe similar things about him or herself, a form of warped projection.
Verbal abuse may occur to a person of any gender, race, culture, sexual orientation, age, or size. Typically, verbal abuse increases in intensity over time and often escalates into physical abuse as well. After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may fall into clinical depression and/ or post-traumatic stress disorder.

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